Throughout our lifetime we will find ourselves being judged. Sometimes the judgments are harsh and uncalled for, and other times they are needed, or even asked for, so we can grow and learn. Justified or unjustified, there are instances when our feelings are hurt by those who have judged us, and we become disconnected from our true selves as we become emotionally distraught in trying to make sense of the judgments.
When I was young, my mom gave me good advice when she told me to stay away from, or at least limit my contact with judgmental people; I can unequivocally say it was easier to do then than it is now. With social media, blogging and trashing internet news sites, many of us experience judgments about any and every aspect of our person. What was once somewhat avoidable is no longer so easily rendered void.
Having been on the receiving end of unasked for judgment, I know the emotional hurt associated with it. Though it has sometimes been painful, I’m thankful for going through these judgemental experiences; As with all things in life even what we perceive to be bad at the moment, always has a silver lining. One of those silver linings for me is I have been able to use my painful experiences to help others who are going through the pain of being judged, misjudged or even rightly judged.
Over the years I have helped others to use the following methods to deal with judgment. It’s straightforward, easy to understand and implement.
The pain you are experiencing from being judged, especially when the judgment is harsh or uncalled for, is real it affects you physically, mentally and emotionally. Let’s feel better:
- Find a quiet place to sit.
- Close your eyes and just breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. Notice the sound of your breath. Do this for a few moments.
- Picture your judge and center them in a shining, loving light from above. Without thinking why they judged you, tell your accuser, your criticizer, your judge, thank you, thank you, thank you, and keep picturing them in the light for a few more moments.
Taking these steps, and having acknowledged that you’ve been hurt, you are releasing yourself from their judgment, and you’re grateful for what you have learned from them.
Blessings, Robert C. Morgan “Bobby” 2017
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